Becoming a Step Mother has been the biggest commitment I have ever made in my entire life.
Becoming a step daughter myself at the age of 12 I understand more clear than anyone the challenges, confusions and emotions a young kid goes through. I also know the hell I put my step parents through.
What I didn't realize was all the rejection I would get from "outsiders" as a new step mom.
I have been forced to deal with many different emotions and opinions of others surrounding my marriage and the children.
I am most surprised with the kids mother rejecting me. It had been 8+ years since their divorce - so why am I being treating like I am invisible. Not an important part of her children's lives.
Irrelevant on any background story when an ex spouse re marries this must take a toll on any ex wife and mother. It must be hard to take out personal emotion for the children. I am not in this role myself but it is hard for me to know that I should keep a positive attitude and still try where I have been treated with negatively. It is hard to have people feel like it is ok to judge our lives. To tell me and my husband how to run our lives and household. "you need to understand..." "the kids are suffering" "you don't know what he put her through" "this is how things have always been"
Surprising, is people from my life not understanding my decision to marry a man with children.
Not understanding or liking my new responsibilities.
"jealous ex wife" from one side and "insecure new wife" from the other.
I wish for the kids everyone could just stop be happy for them ..for us Genuinely!
We have stranded ourselves on an island. One where we chose how happy to be!
I just want to say to all you ex wives please understand... we are not looking to replace you
we are not looking to take over your traditions
we are not jealous of you or your past with our husband
Nor do we assume you are jealous of us
we fell in love with a man with children ..your children
we treat them as best we can
We ask for respect and kindness for the important role we are now in
God Continue To Give Me Strength!